11 Secrets for a Happy (and Sexy) Relationship

11 Secrets for a Happy (and Sexy) Relationship

Here are 11 awesome some tips to keep your relationship fresh, vibrant and sexy.

1. Show them some positivity

Make sure to let your partner know how much you appreciate them. Though they already probably know it, it would do a lot for your relationship if you make positive remarks to them regularly, praising how they are or what they did.

It’s always good to be appreciative, and this will cut down on any possible resentment.

2. Don’t be over critical

Try not to over criticize. Most people are fine with criticism in the beginning stages of their relationships, but as time goes by, they begin to get irritated by it.

While honest criticism is important, make sure to restrict it to relevant issues, and don’t nitpick over tiny problems that would best be let pass.

If your partner ends up feeling that they are constantly being judged, then they may lash out or become unhappy, neither of which will help your relationship.

3. Listen well

Remember to always listen to what your partner is trying to say. If ever you get into an argument or a fight, make sure that you are aware of their side, and allow them to explain, before you begin to respond.

Not interrupting and listening wholeheartedly will do wonders for your relationship.

4. Have time for yourself

Remember to set aside time for yourself. Your life shouldn’t revolve around your partner, and you should be able to live a stable life, with your own friends, hobbies, and interests. This allows you to grow as an individual, while giving space to your partner to grow as well.

5. Say sorry

Don’t be afraid to apologise. Even if you honestly believe that it isn’t really all your fault, apologising and making the first move to reconciliation after a fight will make life easier and happier for the both of you.

Life’s too short to hold grudges.

6. Do what you say you’re going to do

Always keep your word. Even for the little things. Even if you feel that you already do a lot for the relationship, if you promise to do something small like take out the rubbish, then make sure to do it.

7. Stay cool, not pushy

Don’t be in constant pursuit of your partner. Not everyone thinks the same way, and if your partner isn’t as comfortable with so much closeness, then over pursuing them may make them feel uncomfortable, or may even drive them away.

Give them enough space, and don’t smother them.

8. Keep conversations open and honest

If ever your partner is rude towards you, tell them that they are being rude, and that you will only talk to them when they’ve calmed down and are treating you with proper respect once again.

9. Maintain an element of mystery

Keep some things to yourself. While knowing a lot about another person leads to comfort, over familiarity may breed contempt.

Do some things to yourself, and have a life outside your partner, and this will lead to greater passion between the two of you.

10. Switch off tech when you’re with each other

Don’t be too absorbed with your phones. Make sure that you can communicate or spend time with each other without your faces glued to your electronic devices.

Simple rules may include no phones during dinner, or no taking calls during conversations (unless they are urgent).

11. Have sex!

Sex is one of the greatest bonding activities between partners, and having an active and healthy sex life is one of the greatest indicators of a happy relationship or marriage.

Indulge your partner and enjoy life with them together. Remember to keep open communication between the two of you, and tell your partner what you like and what you dislike in order to enjoy sex even more.

Check out my best couples sex toy review and 11 ideas for a sexy night in.

Wishing you a long and happy relationship! 🙂

11 Ideas For a Sexy Date Night In

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Here are ten alternative and exciting ideas for a sexy date night in with your partner.

sexy date night in ideas

1. Cook together

The urge for a takeaway may be there, but cooking is great fun when you really get into it. It’s an incredibly sociable activity – with enough wine flowing and some nice music, it can really set the romantic tone too.

To ‘spice’ things up a little, try making something that neither of you have done before, or try your hardest to recreate one of your favourite restaurant dishes.

If you really fancy a challenge, you should both attempt to make something with no real recipe, making it your own special meal from that awesome night in you had together.

Bonus points if you get dressed up in your sexiest clothes and turn it into a really beautiful date night in.

2. Have a movie marathon or TV binge

This doesn’t mean simply sitting in front of 80’s repeats either!

Choose a theme for your evening to have, such as Westerns, rom-coms, musicals and so on – set your movie picking skills to a certain genre to keep the night from going stale. It is a great way to get to know each other’s movie tastes, and even enjoy something that neither of you have seen before.

It’s a great opportunity to get snuggly under a blanket and really get cosy. And if you’re not careful things could get really heated under there…

3. Crack out the silly board games

Like almost all of us, you probably have a dusty box of Snakes ‘n’ Ladders or Trivial Pursuit somewhere in the house. If you don’t, ask a friend!

These are the kind of games that you only think to bring out on cold winter nights or at Christmas, but here is another perfect chance. Get the drinks on the go and a game of Monopoly could turn into fits of laughter, or an attempt at general knowledge quizzes could leave you reeling.

When the company is there, quite literally anything could be a laugh! And laughter is extremely sexy.

4. Create your own home spa

If you need to unwind after a long day or arduous week, you may be craving a chance to go to a spa. Sometimes though, it can be a lot easier and cheaper to bring the spa to you! There are simple ways for you and your partner to enjoy a rejuvenating experience from the comfort of your home.

Fill your bath with relaxing soaps and adorn the bathroom with candles, or lather on some face masks and soak your feet in some warm soapy water. Relaxing music and soft lighting really go a long way!

Alternatively take a steamy hot shower together and let the heat melt away any aches and tension.

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5. Take the outdoors indoors

When the winter nights start dragging on, that yearning for a Summer camping holiday tends to get worse.

Although you may not be able to get the tent and head to the hills, you can still have the same effect from home. In your living room construct a tent made from blankets (or just your actual tent if you have room!), put in your comfy bedding and light some little lanterns.

Frying some sausages on the BBQ outdoors and settling down for this sexy date night in can make an average evening memorable, as well as a chance for some real heart to hearts and unexpected pure romance!

6. Bring back the party games

Remember those nostalgic party games you used to play as a kid? Pin the tail on the donkey, hide the spoon, Twister, musical chairs and so on – all of these can be amazing fun for a silly night in.

These games were usually pretty simple for our exhausted parents to put together back in the day, so by giving them a go you’ll realise they’re easy and cheap to execute. It’ll leave you both in fits of giggles. Combine with music, drinks and a take away and you’ve got a night of fun that will leave you ready for more.

7. Draw each other’s portraits

If you fancy yourselves as budding artists – or not – this may be the one to keep you laughing all evening.

All you need is some paper, and whatever your artistic heart desires – pencils, pens, chalk, you name it.

Your partner can choose to dress up or hold a random object, and pose dramatically for you to capture!

Regardless of your drawing talents, you will still have a great date night in – whatever the outcome. As the evening draws to a close (ahem) you will end up with an excellent souvenir to remember it by!

8. Simply chat

If you’re one for keeping it on the down low, and being wildly extravagant seems slightly daunting, it doesn’t matter. You can still have an absolutely great time!

With all of the stresses of daily life, inescapable technology and chaotic commuting, a chance to turn down the lights with this date night in, switch off the television and simply chat may be the best thing to unwind. Escape all the stress and demands of normal life and focus on each other, and what both of you have to say.

You might end up having the most in-depth and interesting conversations you’ve ever had, or learn something about one another that you never knew before.

Open up about what you most long for in life – and who knows, it could bring you closer than ever both emotionally and physically.

9. Give each other massages

The tension of your busy day at work may be evident in your shoulders and muscles, and you’re probably feeling it all by the end of the day.

Instead of simply going to bed and not bothering with anything, turn your tiredness into enjoying your evening with your partner instead.

Gather up some essential oils, light some candles and put on your unwinding playlist and enjoy a romantic massage from each other.

It will not only make you feel physically better and mentally calmer, but it will also bring you closer together as a couple. It’s both sensual and romantic.

10. Get crafty

Fancy trying your hand at something new? Working together on building or creating something is a great way to unite you as a couple.

You may even discover a talent for something you never knew you had! It may be creating something for your home, redecorating stuff you already have or even fixing what may be broken around the house.

crafty date night in

Putting your minds together and working on improving an item is always great fun, even if you’re terrible at it! With enough light hearted laughter and silliness, you could end up making something to help you remember such an incredible date night in.

11. Experimentation date night in

Choose some interesting new sex toys you’ve never tried before. The more unusual to you the better. Decide to explore and experiment with some new pleasurable experiences and see how much you can pleasure each other in new and unknown ways! Eg. The We-Vibe Unite (my review) is an excellent couples toy.

Changing things up is a great way to keep your sex life alive, fresh and is essential.

Whichever sexy date night in you choose, most of all have fun, let go, and enjoy your partners company.

Orgasmised for Christmas

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How are you doing this fine Friday?

I’m really feeling the chill right now. But I had to share with you this sexy Christmas Santa outfit I’ve fallen in love with. (£20 at Ann Summers, love!)



Whilst I’m here let’s talk about what’s going on right now.

It’s a good time of year to get everything organised for Christmas and next year, well in advance, before the crazy rush. And you can be all calm and relaxed whilst everyone else is out in the cold doing things last minute. That’s my plan anyway!

And how do I do that?

I buy pretty much everything online, sex toys, groceries, christmas presents. Sure there’s the odd thing I buy locally but it’s more as a top up.

Make a list of who you need to buy for – think hard about what you’re going to buy them, find it and order it now. Not later. I like to create small pieces of paper for each person and write that person’s name at the top, and underneath what they’re getting. Sorted.

Naughty Christmas Gifts

Sex toys and lingerie make very lovely gifts for your partner and already you can shop for these gifts at my 3 fave places online: Lovehoney, Bondara and Ann Summers.

Ann Summers has it’s gorgeous Christmas shop all ready and open.

Lovehoney has a ‘find the perfect sexy Christmas gift‘ section in preparation for the big day.

Bondara has a ginormous Christmas gift section full of ideas.

So definitely go and check some of these places out if you’re wanting to get organised (or orgasmised) for Christmas, and surprise your partner with a sexy new toy or some slutty lingerie!


Is Masturbation Good For You? 8 Reasons It Is!

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is masturbation good for youIn this post Grace answers is masturbation good for you?

Playing with your sex toys is really good for your health. Really good! And to prove it here are 8 reasons why masturbation, or self love, is excellent for you.

Is masturbation good for you? Here’s why it is.

1. Better Sex

Experimenting on yourself first means you know what you do and don’t like. If you don’t know yourself, your partner may not know either. And communication is a big part of a good sex life.

Play with your toys, let go, have fun and just enjoy yourself with them! The more you masturbate, the more you will enjoy regular orgasms, regular sex, and really understand what most turns you on!


2. Find it Easier to Orgasm

This is pretty amazing, but those ladies that don’t regularly orgasm by themselves, often struggle to orgasm during sex with their partner.

The more you orgasm alone, the easier it is when you’re having sex. You’re more in tune with yourself, your orgasm ‘muscles’ are well worked, and you’re more relaxed because you know yourself and your body so well.


3. Relieve Stress

Orgasms are a big stress reliever. The more you masturbate and play with your sex toys, the happier you will be. It lowers your blood pressure, it releases endorphins and increases relaxation. What’s not to love?

So next time you’re feeling stressed out – grab your bullet vibrator and give yourself a quick orgasm before you continue where you were, feeling much more relaxed about it!

Stress release is one of my faves in this is masturbation good for you list of reasons.


4. Help Sleep

Having an orgasm before bed really helps you sleep. Your body releases stress relieving hormones, which put you in a lovely relaxed state all ready for sleep. It’s a great way to switch off the day and move into a state of peace and calm. Try using your bullet right before sleep instead of checking Facebook and notice how much better you sleep.


5. Boost Your Immune System

When you masturbate you release a hormone called cortisol. This in small doses really helps your immune system to function well.

Even though cortisol is a stress hormone, it can promote the production of antibodies. These antibodies are your fighter cells who will help to tag and kill off any foreign bugs inside you.

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6. Boost Your Circulation

Masturbating can get you all hot and your heart rate thumping. This is like exercise, except it’s very easy and if you ask me a lot more pleasurable! It helps the blood pump round your arteries and tissues and function well.

It also burns calories! In our is masturbation good for you list, this is possibly one of the best reasons!

boost your circulation

7. Relieve Period Cramps

Many ladies suffer from period cramps and they are a complete annoyance.

The cramps themselves are due to muscle tension, so instead of just taking a pain killer, masturbate, give yourself an orgasm, and the increased blood flowing to the muscles in the pelvic floor helps relieve the pain and tension of period cramps.

Is masturbation good for you? It’s definitely good for relieving annoying period cramps so have your bullet ready around this time of the month for sure.

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8. Help UTIs (Urinary Tract Infections)

Now and then, most women will suffer from at least one UTI. Scientists say that masturbation can actually help to prevent cervical infections because of something called “tenting”.

I know this sounds a bit weird, but its true. Tenting is when the cervix opens naturally as part of you being aroused, or turned on. It stretches the cervix, and at the same time produces more cervical mucous.

And it’s this extra fluid circulation is what allows the cervix to be nicely flushed out naturally. Naturally is the key here. Always remember to have a wee after having sex too, to flush out your urinary tract of any bacteria that may have been introduced during the play.

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To Conclude, Is Masturbation Good for You?

In this is masturbation good for you post, it’s clear that yes, it really is! There are so many health benefits from doing it, and it feels amazing!!

So take advantage of this easy mood changer and take 5 minutes out of your day every day to give yourself an orgasm.

Check out my top 10 bullet vibrators and make sure you always have a bullet handy for when the mood strikes!

Using Olive Oil as a Natural Lubricant

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Olive oil as a natural lubricant

Most people already have some olive oil in their kitchen. It’s great to use for cooking, on salads, and for moisturising the skin. But what about using it as a lubricant down there? How does olive oil compare to other traditional lubricants you can buy in the shops?

Olive Oil as a Natural Lubricant


The pros to using olive oil as a sexual lubricant include:

Olive oil is readily available. That goes without saying!

It also lasts a long time and it’s really good for the skin.

Olive oil has a neutral pH level, meaning it’s safe, especially for women trying to conceive.

It should also help to keep any nasty yeast infections at bay.


It’s not all good news unfortunately when using olive oil as a natural lubricant.

Olive oil is a pretty dense oil, and therefore it is fairly tricky to clean it all off.

To some, it doesn’t have an amazing smell, and it can also stain your clothes. Although when you use it as a lube, you’re unlikely to be wearing any there.

Like other oils, it isn’t compatible with some sex toys, especially silicone based ones, and it’s definitely not suitable to use with latex condoms.

Can you use olive oil with sex toys?

Like coconut oil, you can use olive oil safely with:

Glass, ceramics and metal toys.

It’s not compatible with plastic toys made of jelly, rubber, TPR, TPE, latex, vinyl and PVC. Have a read of the product descriptions for the toys if you’re not sure.

Top tip

It’s advised that you check on the label that your olive oil doesn’t contain any preservatives. These are not designed for intimate use and could irritate your skin. It’s also worth investing in extra virgin olive oil as opposed to any other type. Pour a small amount into your palm to warm it, then smooth it onto yourself or your lover.

Beware of using oils like canola oil, sunflower oil, corn oil, and avocado oil on your personal areas. These ones can create stickiness and an unpleasant build up. Save these for your salads and frying!

Overall, you can use olive oil as a natural lubricant as long as you are careful about which sex toys you use it with, and you don’t use it with condoms.

Have you tried olive out? Leave a comment and share your experience!

5 Easy Halloween Costumes

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Halloween is almost upon us! And that means a great reason to get dressed up in something special and sexy. In this post I’m going to be sharing my favourite easy halloween costumes.

Hopefully you’ve got something planned this halloween, but if you haven’t yet, it’s not too late.

Why not ask a few people to come round to your house in fancy dress and share some nibbles and drinks or all go on a night out together in fancy dress.

I had a look at some of the sexiest and also easiest halloween costumes around for UK ladies and here are my faves this year!

Here’s my 5 Fave Easy Halloween Costumes…

1. The Devil in You Costume

This is a classic sexy devil costume for ladies. The tummy section is nice and flattering and you can pair it with tights, stockings or go bare legged.

It comes with glittery devil ears and a fork. It’s definitely sexy and one of my fave easy halloween costumes because it maintains a lot of femininity whilst also keeping in tradition of being in character! You could quite easily wear this in the bedroom long after halloween, minus the ears and fork.

Or add those if you felt the urge to.

This costume comes in four sizes and has so far received two good reviews.

easy halloween costumes

From: Ann Summers: £20.00

2. Fever Cheetah Bodysuit

Next up is this gorgeous animal print bodysuit. It’s a really one of my easy halloween costumes because this is all there is to it, and it looks so effective and stunning. You can team this with any shoes, boots, heels or flats and it would still look great.

The head band ears is optional and can be bought separately for £4.99.

fever cheetah body suit halloween

From: Lovehoney £17.99

3. Vinyl Cat Mask

I’m not joking! This has got to be the most easiest of easy halloween costumes possible. Team this vinyl cat mask with any sexy dress or outfit you have, or what about a plain black top and black leggings and heels?

You will still look in costume and like you’ve made the effort without going to great lengths, and easy halloween costumes is the topic here!

I think this is a great idea for slightly (ahem) lazy ladies who can’t be bothered going over the top with their halloween costume. Get it delivered and focus on enjoying the party!

easy halloween costumes

From: Lovehoney £9.99

4. Fever Witch Costume

This witch costume comes in three sizes, small, medium and large. It comes complete with hat and witch dress. Wear it with stockings, tights or black leggings, and any shoes or boots.

It’s a great price currently as well and another easy halloween costumes favourite of mine.

fever witch costume

From: SexToys.co.uk £14.95

5. Glow in the Dark Cat Suit

This cat suit is glamorous and glows in the dark! You won’t be missed at any party in this that’s for sure. It comes with gloves. Wear it with heels or flats.


From: Honour £39.99

I hope these easy halloween costumes have given you some great ideas for what to wear on the night. Leave a comment with what you will be up to, and what you will be wearing! I’d love to hear.

Grace x

5 Reasons Why Sex Toys Make You Happier

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Here are my top 5 reasons why sex toys make you happier!

1. Acceptance of You

Loving your body is essential for any woman. That includes all of you. Your bumps and curves and bits you’re not that fond of.

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When you’re alone with your sex toys, it’s the perfect time for practicing acceptance of your entire body and self love.

Shower yourself with feelings of love as you pleasure yourself and as you orgasm.

If you don’t feel it, pretend you do, imagine if you did.

Imagine what it would feel like to just accept yourself as you are today, and to love every inch of your body.

That’s when you can really let go and have the best sex of your life from then on, because you no longer care what your partner thinks, because it doesn’t matter.

You love yourself, and you know you are beautiful. And when you let that kind of confidence shine, it’s sexy, and it’s gorgeous and your partner will find you EVEN more sexier!

So start accepting and loving you today.

2. Orgasms Release Happy Chemicals

More orgasms, means you feel happier. Every time you orgasm, you release waves of happy chemicals. They flood your body and make it feel relaxed and more peaceful.

These feelings stay with you hours after and with repetition, orgasming often will change you, for the better.

3. You Burn Calories

sex toys make you happier

Orgasming alone burns calories, but whilst you are pleasuring yourself this also burns calories too.

There’s no way other way that’s more fun to burn calories if you ask me!

4. Understand Your Body More

Sex toys help you to understand your body more and find out your likes and dislikes.

You can experiment with what things feel like in different places. You can have a go with new toys and new techniques on your own before you try them out with a partner.

Alternatively you can have a great time experimenting with what you like with your partner as well.

The more time you spend with your toys and your body, the more you will understand what turns you on and feels best for you.

5. Increase Your Sex Drive

The more you love your body as it is, the more you orgasm and get to understand yourself and your needs more, the higher your overall sex drive will be.

And what’s not to love about that!

Life is happening now. So have fun. Play. Experiment. Let go and let your sex toys make your happier!

Coconut Oil as a Natural Lubricant


We’re talking about using coconut oil as a natural lubricant


Some readers comment that they really don’t like using artificial lubes during sex and play time with their sex toys, and they would rather use something that’s more natural.

In this post I’m going to tell you a bit about using coconut oil as a natural lubricant.

Coconut oil has many fantastic uses! At room temperature coconut oil is usually hard, so to use it spoon some out of your jar first, warm it up in your hands and it will melt nicely.

Uses for coconut oil

It’s 100% natural and has no other chemicals added to it.

It can be used for eating and cooking with, and is jam-packed full of vitamins.

It’s great for using as a moisturiser on your hair and your skin.

And it can also be used as lube down there – so long as you follow these important guidelines!

Using coconut oil with your sex toys

Coconut oil is not compatible with all sex toys, and you need to know the material your toy is made from before you mix the two together. You can usually check this out on the packaging when you buy your toy.

Coconut oil cannot be used with the following:

Latex condoms (these will degrade and could lead to a happy, or not so happy accident further down the line).

Jelly toys

Rubber toys

PVC toys

Latex toys

Vinyl toys

Using coconut oil with any of these materials will degrade them and basically mess them up.

You can use coconut oil with:

Your own skin. It’s excellent as a personal lubricant. But you should test a very small amount on the inside of your wrist first to check there is no reaction first.

Toys made with:

Good quality silicone toys

Ceramic toys

Glass toys

Metal toys

When you’ve finished, make sure you give your toys a good wash to remove any coconut oil and keep them lovely and clean for the next time you use them. Using coconut oil as a natural lubricant is lovely and I highly recommend experimenting with this delicious material!


11 Foods For Women That Increase Your Sex Drive

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Here are 11 foods for women that increase your sex drive.

I’m not just talking about oysters.

There are lots of foods you can eat (non slipper and slimey fish related) that can have a huge influence on increasing your sex drive – as a woman.


Salmon is a fish high in omega-3s. These are great for improving the circulation in your body, and ultimately getting more blood flowing to your genitals. These leads to greater sensitivity and increased arousal.

Omega-3s are also excellent at improving the dopamine levels in your brain, a natural feel good chemical. More dopamine, means a better mood, and an enhanced sex drive! So eat plenty of salmon for all of it’s many benefits.

7 foods for women that increase your sex drive


Water melon maybe virtually all water (92% so a great weight loss food too), it’s remaining 8% is packed full of essential sexual health vitamins.

These have even been shown to have dramatically effect your blood vessels and blood flow, which can enhance your sex drive. This is carried out by (here comes the science bit) a phytonutrient named citrulline. Your body is able to convert this into arginine which is an amino acid.

This amino acid then boosts your nitric oxide levels and relaxes the blood vessels in a similar way to how Viagra works.

All from eating water melon?! I gotta get me some of that.

watermelon for improving sex drive


Yes to that! Who doesn’t love chocolate? I couldn’t have a list of foods for women that increase your sex drive without mentioning chocolate. Here’s why.

Chocolate is high in magnesium. And magnesium is good for helping you feel more relaxed and de-stressed. More relaxation, less stress, equals a higher sex drive.

Have you ever noticed you’re more in the mood when you’re on holiday away from the stresses of every day life? Create more of that at home wherever possible.

Dark chocolate is even better. It contains phenylethylamine which helps release the endorphins you get through sex. So try to opt for dark chocolate, which has many other health benefits too.

7 foods for women that increase your sex drive


Peaches are a lovely fruit to consider for helping your sex drive improve.

There are studies you can find online that show peaches are packed full with vitamin C and can improve sex drive in women. They also boost your blood flow. An enhanced blood flow means you are turned on more easily.

eat peaches for libido


Oatmeal may not sound very exciting when it comes to sex drive. Sorry. But it does contain a really important chemical called L-arginine. This has been used to treat erectile dysfunction in men, and in women it helps improve blood flow to your clitoris!

Sounds like a great reason to opt for oatmeal in the morning and definitely high in the foods for women that increase your sex drive!



Women who take ginseng supplements have been found to increase their libido level in as little as a month as well as increase their overall sex life. You can take ginseng as a supplement or have a ginseng tea.

Be careful not to opt for just anything with ginseng in it, you want to make sure it isn’t something that’s also packed full of chemicals and sugar that’s hopping on the ginseng train.

Too many bad ingredients will counteract all of the benefits of ginseng.

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Cranberries are an excellent natural diuretic which means they can really help you have a flatter tummy and debloat, just from drinking (unsweetened) cranberry juice.

Less bloat, means you feel better, you can move more easily with more energy and you feel a heck of a lot more sexy! So that’s a great way to improve your sex drive just through a drink.

Cranberry juice is also great at preventing urinary tract infections (UTI) which are surprisingly common in women and most ladies will experience one of these at least once in their life.



Ideally you want to opt for grass-fed beef, but that’s not always possible. Beef is an excellent source of zinc which is the same libido-enhancing nutrient that is found in oysters. How would you like your steak madam?

steak for libido


Figs are great for releasing sexy pheromones. Not sure? Try eating five figs before you have sex and find out for yourself! Figs are also considered excellent for enhancing your fertility so if you’re thinking of getting pregnant, stock up on your figs. Another great fruit in this list of foods for women that increase your sex drive.



Eggs really help boost your energy levels and ability to focus, as well as this they are good for balancing out your hormones and regulating your libido. All excellent qualities for a higher sex drive.

Whether you opt for scrambled, boiled, deviled, poached or fried, eat eggs regularly and notice how your sex drive improves – especially if someone else lovingly makes them for you to eat in bed, hint hint.

eat eggs for energy


Ginger is a natural libido enhancer. Whether you eat it raw, as a supplement or in a tasty drink, it all helps. Ginger also has many other benefits like boosting your immune system, circulation and detoxification.

Add a splash of ginger where ever you can!

ginger for libido

I hope this list of foods for women that increase your sex drive have given you some new ideas on how you can feel more in the mood.

Above all, take good care of yourself and eat well whenever you can for optimum sex drive!

How Often Can You Use a Sex Toy?

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In this ask Grace post, I was asked:

“How often can you use a sex toy?”

The answer is, as long as you are enjoying the experience, as often as you like!

Sex toys are extremely safe and have to pass strict and stringent safety regulations before you can buy them here in the UK.

If you want to use your sex toy every day, do it. Multiple times a day? Go for it!

Why? Women who regularly use sex toys increase their clitoral sensations and improve their quality of orgasms. It’s healthy and it improves your overall quality of life too. You know who you are, you’re a sensual woman when you use sex toys regularly!

They are also a great way of exploring what you enjoy, and learning more about what feels good, with or without a partner. With this knowledge, you can let your partner know ‘this is what I like’, ‘this is what I want you to do.’

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And trust me, there is nothing more sexy than a woman who knows what she likes and what she wants! Your partner will love it. Experimenting with your sex toys definitely helps you become this person.

It is possible to occasionally experience some mild discomfort from a long vibrating session, and you can over do it causing some temporary clitoral numbness, but the trick is to notice when you are feeling this way and to have a break. This is only ever temporary, and your body will tell you when it’s becoming too much, so mixing it up with some non-vibrational stimulation is a good way of not overdoing the vibrations.

I’m talking about vibrating for one long period of time, not regular shorter intervals.

So to summarise, how often can you use a sex toy? They relieve stress, they teach you about your body, they add new ways of enjoying time with your partner, and they are a very healthy part of a happy sex life.

Use your sex toy as often as you like as long as it feels good!

How Discreet is Ordering a Sex Toy Online?

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When you order a sex toy online, does anyone else know that’s what you’ve ordered?

I get asked this question a lot.

What shows up on your bank statement?

And how does the parcel look when its delivered?

Will your old neighbour Ted know that the parcel he’s just signed for when you weren’t in is your new dildo?

Your bank statements

The vast majority of online sex shops will not show on your bank statement who you have actually ordered from, as they use a trading name.

For example Lovehoney says LH Trading. That could be anyone.

It’s not immediately obvious.

Your parcel

This got delivered next door. No clues about what’s inside.

Your parcel arrives plain and there is no way of telling what’s inside it. It does not have “sex toy!” written anywhere on it.

There is usually a returns address which again, is not the address of where you ordered from. Like the above example, it may say return to “LH Trading” but that’s about it. It could be from anyone.

I have ordered parcels many times from online toy shops that have gone next door, it’s not ideal! But I don’t mind really because there is no way of telling from the box what is inside.


So, when you are ordering your sex toys, you can relax knowing that your parcel is discreet, and your bank accounts won’t be lit up with the names of online toy shops when you have to send a statement off somewhere.

It is discreet. And it is easy to order and have that toy you’ve got your eye on in your possession without any concerns about who else knows!

Can you use a vibrator when pregnant?

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I get asked this question a lot. I can see why some women might be worried and ask can you use a vibrator when pregnant, because you have got a real live baby inside of you, and you don’t want to do your baby any damage.

You can be safe in the knowledge that your baby is well protected whilst you are pregnant by a thick and protective mucus plug. This plug seals off your cervix from the outside world.

pregnant baby bump

Hygiene is everything

In the majority of circumstances it is completely safe to use a sex toy whilst pregnant with no issues so long as your toys are clean. Wash them after each use, as well as before you use any new ones.

The way to wash a sex toy is:

  • With clean, soapy water
  • Ensure you rinse the soap off and dry them properly
  • Store them somewhere clean and dry

Better orgasms whilst pregnant

What’s really great whilst pregnant for a lot of women, is that because of all the extra blood that’s circulating in your ‘lower regions’ to support the baby, this actually makes pleasure, sex and orgasms more intense and satisfying.

In the later stages of pregnancy, when the nausea has passed, and you may be less tired (everyone is different), you may well find yourself extra horny and turned on, compared to when you weren’t pregnant. This is normal.

I advise you to take full advantage of this increased blood flow. Being pregnant can be exhausting and hard work for many women, so you should definitely add as much pleasure to the mix as possible. If the extra blood flow gives you more pleasure, use it.

Some ladies go off full on sex, and they prefer foreplay. This is where sex toys can really come into use. You might enjoy using them alone each time, or get your partner to join in and use them on you too. It can help keep your relationship close during pregnancy.

pregnancy orgasms

Times when caution is needed

The times when you shouldn’t use a sex toy to full depth inside you are:

  • Your doctor has advised you not to have sex, for example if you have been found to have a low lying placenta during a scan, or in a previous pregnancy you had a weak cervix
  • Or that you could go into labour too early. This is rare but if you have been told this, the reason not to use sex toys is that orgasms can stimulate contractions.
  • If you have an infection
  • Or if your waters have already broken

Also if you have experienced any bleeding during your pregnancy, do speak to your doctor or midwife before you use sex toys.

These circumstances are rare, and in the vast majority of cases it is completely fine to use sex toys whilst pregnant, and I encourage you to give yourself as much pleasure and orgasms as you can.

Always remember to have a wee after sex or using a sex toy. The reason for this is that it helps clear your urinary tract. You should do this whether pregnant or not, but when you’re pregnant you are more prone to urinary tract infections (UTIs) which is why hygiene is especially important.

A few women do bleed after sex during pregnancy and it is regarded as common and due to increased blood flow, and sometimes the tiny blood vessels in the vagina can be broken. This can cause some light spotting. If you do bleed after sex, especially whilst pregnant, it is worth being checked out by your doctor.

pregnancy blooming

Summary: Can you use a vibrator when pregnant?

If you don’t have any medical complications and the mood takes you, go for it. Use your vibrator and give yourself as many orgasms as you need. Orgasms fill your body with tons of endorphins and I reckon that these happy chemicals will inevitably get passed onto your baby via your joint blood streams.

What puts you in a good mood, is also likely to help create a happier baby too!

Check out the great range of vibrators available at my favourite shop, Lovehoney.